We’ve all seen those people that are always moving forward. That don’t let circumstance or popular opinion shape, mold or hold a place in their lives. The strong ones who are destined to be great. I’ve seen it in all ages, colors, shapes, and sizes, people who continually challenge themselves to be better every day. Individuals that don’t accept or make excuses about their lives and don’t trouble themselves with others issues. It’s nearly impossible not to admire people like that and hope one day to get a little of their magical juju to rub off on us.
Sadly wishing to be more like these extraordinary people isn’t going to get you any closer to getting that magical juju we all desire. Mental strength doesn’t come overnight; it takes a long time to cultivate and develop. It’s a daily sometimes hourly struggle to set boundaries, improve oneself and get out of your comfort zone. We have to change our mindset, change the way we look at life and all those beautiful little setbacks that come along with it. How do we do this? By adopting the traits, mentality, and mindset of these amazing individuals.
Keep your cool
We’ve all been there; you did nothing wrong, yet things are falling apart and somehow you are getting all of the blame. Or someone is manipulating the situation, and you just can’t take it anymore. There are tons of scenarios where one can lose their cool, and that’s where your mental toughness comes in. It can feel nearly impossible to keep your cool in certain situations. Whenever I lose it within a few hours, I’m usually beating myself up and thinking about better ways to handle the situation than my current choice. You must be mentally strong to keep your calm in the heart of chaos.
Only apologize when needed
Women tend to apologize more than men. Why constantly apologize? It doesn’t make you feel powerful. Apologizing can help you gain acceptance, take blame for a situation or help avoid confrontation. Confrontations scare a lot of people, whether you are right or wrong saying sorry is easier than having to explain yourself and your stance or opinion on a situation. Always apologizing makes you look weak and unsure of yourself, this is not a trait of a mentally strong person. Check out this article about the “Sorry Syndrome”
Apologizing isn’t a bad thing, especially when it’s warranted. Apologizing for no reason is unacceptable, and can diminish your personal power
Setting boundaries is no easy thing. For the majority of my life I didn’t set boundaries, I allowed people treat me however they felt fit to treat me. I was never a push over, but I also didn’t make my wants, needs, and expectations be known. Instead, I complained silently in my head or blew up whisked into an angry rant when I couldn’t take it anymore. After my last relationship, one of my biggest challenges has been to set clear boundaries, and not except what I don’t want. Use your stellar communication skills. Let everyone around you how much you love and respect yourself by setting healthy boundaries in all areas of your life.
“Whatever you are willing to put up with is exactly what you will have”
Ask for help
Asking for help seems so easy and simple, but it’s one of the hardest habits to master and one of the most important traits that Mentally Strong Individuals have. Somewhere along the way asking for help became a sign of weakness. If you don’t know something you need to fake it until you make it, don’t let anyone know need help, that was my mindset. Successful companies hire people at the top of their field; they hire the best of the best then ask for help. We need to think like these successful companies. If you need help don’t hesitate to reach out and ask, it doesn’t make you look weak it actually makes you look strong.
It’s easier to put things off you don’t want to do and replace them with things you enjoy. I procrastinated every day of my life. Making deals with myself about when I’ll do a dreaded task and how long I can avoid not doing it. The best advice to avoid procrastination is to STOP PROCRASTINATING. Just do it, do all the things you don’t feel like doing, but need to do. It’s as simple as that. Mentally strong people know everything in life isn’t going to be fun. It’s up to us to do whatever necessary to propel to the next level in life.