I grew up in the 80s and the 90s, watching R&B groups dancing in sync telling me they wanted to buy me dinner, take me on trips, and treat me like I deserve to be treated. As the years went on, songs became a little more graphic. I’m not sure if you remember Freak Me by Silk but the man spelled out exactly what he wanted to do to you and with you.
Now I find myself in a confusing time. It’s 2017, I’m not a kid anymore, I’m a grown women with real responsibilities looking for real love. I still love music but I have to say the music today is much different from Boys to Men longing for me to return or Dru Hill demanding me to tell them what I wanted. Now when I turn the radio to my favorite Hip Hop station I’m going to hear the B-word over and over again.
Somewhere along the way, it became acceptable to be disrespectful towards women, and I’m just trying to figure out who co-signed that? From the look of things most people don’t seem to care, the harsh language used to address women doesn’t stop anyone from downloading the lasts hits and bobbing their head to the beat.
I’ll admit I’m guilty of the same crime. But that doesn’t mean I don’t see what’s going on. That I don’t long for an answer, that it doesn’t piss me off.
I still jam my music, I still love the beat, I still stay current but when I hear the b-word too much I opt out of the radio station or press skip on my pandora feed. Am I too sensitive? Is this outrageous to anyone other than me? I miss the days when hip-hop used to love me, tell me I was beautiful, promise to rub my feet and take care of me forever.