In middle school one of my girlfriends told me I was thick, I had no idea if this was a good or bad thing. All I knew is that I didn’t look like my slender sister and shopping was hell. Clothes never fit right and the ones that did looked like they were made for a woman twice my age.
I was never ashamed of my curves, I didn’t always love my body, but I always thanked God I was voluptuous, and the meat was in the right places. I get emails all the time asking for tips on how I embraced curves and how to dress to accentuate them.
Curves are in; a lot of people pay to get a booty, hips, boobs, but what if you don’t like it? What if you aren’t so comfortable in your skin. It’s Mary to the rescue. I’m not an expert and if you know me, then you know I constantly push the limits when it comes to my wardrobe. I’ve been trying to be more conservative, but yeah I like to show what I got. To each their own.
Dress your Curves
Wear clothes that fit
This is one of those things I’ve always struggled with. When you are a curvy girl stretchy fabrics are your best friends. Whenever I purchase jeans, I have to see how much they stretch before even thinking about trying them on. I don’t care what size they are if they don’t have a little give it’s not going to work for me. Since stretchy fabric is my bestie, it’s also easy to squeeze my big ole booty into a size too small. Wearing clothes that are too small, even if they have a little give, doesn’t do you any favors. After a few washes that cute little stretchy dress will shrink down to its original size and you will be left looking like a can of sardines or having to throw away something you love.
Know your proportions
I’m not the average chick, some women are top heavy, some are bottom heavy, and some are tummy heavy. Figure out what you are and dress accordingly. It’s about finding clothes that look good on you, not finding clothes you wish looked good on you… trust me I’ve been there. As much as I would love to rock a jumpsuit the combination of pants and shirt cuts off my waist and makes me look a little bigger than needed. But I can pull off a romper like nobodies business. Dress for the proportions you have, not the proportions you want.
Get a tailor
I hate shopping. You heard me right, shopping down right sucks for me most times. Nothing fits correctly. I usually need to go up a few sizes to accommodate my voluptuous figure. Instead of pouting about it I found me a good tailor. When I purchase pants, dresses or shirts, I call my girl, and she tailors it to size. I wish I could say everything in my closet is tailored, but it’s not. I have three pair of pants, 2 dresses and a few shirts. These bad boys get me through the worst of times.
Show off your favorite parts
We all should have a favorite body part. Throughout the years my preferences have changed, I used to love my toned arms, then it was my back, my boobs got some attention, and these hips don’t lie. Whatever you like best show it off. Put yourself out there, enjoy a deep V if you like your cleavage. Rock those skinny jeans if that booty is popping. Let’s see you in some shorts if you can’t get enough of your thighs. Whatever you like, show it. It’s your body, and you only live once.
Stick with the basics
As much as I love fashion, there are just certain things I can’t pull off like backless, strapless and one shoulder things. Some stuff just doesn’t fit right. Off the shoulder balloon shirts are in, umm no thanks I don’t need anything that looks like a balloon on me, and if I’m going off the shoulder, my boobs will have to defy gravity in 2 maybe three strapless bras. As much as I would love to jump on board with these trends, I know my limits. I stick to the basics when I dress. I can murder a maxi dress, especially one that’s not so form fitting because these hips will poke through just about anything. Simple and flowing works wonders for my shape.
Confidence is key
I left this one for last, but it’s so true. If you hold your head high no matter what you have or don’t have people take notice. I don’t want women to define themselves through the eyes of men. But keeping it 100% men love curves. I’ve been fighting all my life to have a flat toned stomach, but every man I date could care less. Everyone tells me I better not lose my curves. All people like different things some like athletic built, some like skinny some like thick and some like a little extra cushion. Whatever you are I bet my life there are tons of people that love it. But remember we must love ourselves before we can ever love anyone else.