Happy people, sad people, engaging people, shy people, I love all people, all except negative people.
I try my best to ignore people’s negative ways. Striving to be a big, bright, shiny beam of light that enters a room and wipes it clean of all negative energies. Sadly it doesn’t always work like that. The negative people I surrounded myself with started bringing down my vibe, I found myself in a funk. Every day was a bad day, nothing was ever good enough, and I had the weight of the world on my shoulders. I started blaming the universe for all of my shortcomings, making sure to avoid the number one, culprit. Me
A lot of people allow negativity to seep into their lives and don’t even realize it. When I point out negative behavior, most have no idea what they are doing.
All the more reason to be mindful in every aspect of your life.
How to Cut
Negative People Out of your Life
Evaluate your friendships
Make a list of all the negative people that are in your life right now & ask yourself these questions:
Why are you friends?
Have they always been negative?
Do you hesitate to tell them good news?
What attracted you to this relationship?
Do these people make you better or do they bring you down?
You NEED to feel safe with the people you allow in your life. Always remember
your friendship is not a right it’s a privilege
Look at all of your friends and make a note of the negative ones.
Make a plan
You can’t drop a friend over night unless there are a few unforeseen circumstances. I was lucky enough to have some of my negative friends fade into the darkness, they never called me to hang out so once I stopped calling them our friendship came to a screeching halt.
Figure out the easiest least hurtful way to address the issue. Here are a few examples of thoughtful ways to ending a negative relationship
- Write a letter explaining how you feel and how they make you feel
- Go on an hike and spill your guts, explain to your friend the effect their negative attitude is having on you and their own lives.
- Unfriend and unfollow – this one can be a bit tricky. People are very sensitive about their social media accounts. If you are trying to end a friendship make sure you tell the friend you are going to take a step back from social media to regroup – I’ve received those Facebook messages plenty of times.
Don’t feel embarrassed
This is the hardest one. You address that negative person and nine times out of ten they aren’t thrilled that you are cutting them out. Sometimes it’s easier to slowly disengage from these people and sometimes that’s just not possible. Avoid getting into a argument. If they try to argue don’t engage. Allow them to say their piece and remove yourself from the situation. Don’t second guess yourself stick with your gut and don’t feel embarrassed.
Process your feelings
Journal or talk out your feeling after you’ve cut the cord on these negative people. Are you happy, sad, mad, relieved? Write down your real emotions and try to work through any lingering issues. Whenever you are feeling weak or ready to give up allowing these toxic people a place back in your life, reread your original feelings about them. Remember life is short and we get to pick and choose who we want around us.